A WORLD FROM MY EYES

WORDS: BOJANA DUOVSKI
PHOTO: ROOLS DE BOLSTER

The phrase I find myself saying most often is, “How can I help?” It’s a simple question, but it reveals a lot about how I see the world: not as a solo act, but as a web of connections and opportunities. My role? The interspace. I’m the bridge builder, the gap closer, the one who finds joy in connecting people, bringing perspectives together and stitching together layers of society that rarely cross paths. Nowadays, we call these “bubbles,” but to me, they’re huge opportunities, untapped spaces filled with rich perspectives, which can spark understanding and reciprocity when brought together.

In a world where individualism rules, polariza­tion feels exhausting, and Fear of Better Options (FOBO) paralyzes decision-making, it’s clear: we don’t have to settle for this divided norm. I’ve been active from the interspace for years, but these cracks feel deeper now. I’ve embraced the role of a connector, leaping over boundaries and building bridges. In my radio show Cour­age & Love, I brought together guests who, in any other context, would never cross paths. But by focusing on courage and love, they found unexpected common ground. That’s the power of breaking out of bubbles: real progress hap­pens when we stop skimming the surface and start listening to each other, finding what actually unites us.

LISTENING TO YOUR INNER COMPASS

It’s about staying true to who I am and leaning into connection, guided by my instincts. I firm­ly believe everyone has an inner compass, a sense of what feels right, if we can just quiet the noise of thoughts, expectations and societal pressures. Life isn’t about fitting into someone else’s frame; it’s about carving out space where you can thrive and use that freedom to lift others up.

But let’s be real, getting there isn’t easy. It re­quires confronting uncomfortable truths, asking tough questions, and leaning into the growing pains of change. You have to give a piece of yourself, and that can be uncomfortable. There is no shortcut to a meaningful life. It’s about slowing down, even when surroundings make you rush.

More than anything, I’ve learned that timing, at­tunement and resonance are key to finding a har­monious, natural flow in life. Attunement—being deeply present with yourself and others, allows you to truly listen and understand the nuances of a situation. Resonance is what happens when you align your actions, thoughts, and relation­ships with that attunement. Together, they create the rhythm that guides meaningful connection and balance. When you’re in tune with yourself and the universe, life feels more like a cohesive, flowing story.

The world I envision values meaning over noise and depth over quick fixes. It’s not about rushing or chasing productivity at every turn, but about carving out purposeful moments of connection. That’s why I make time to mentor young talents, even when my schedule feels tight. Acknowl­edging them and sparking their potential is an investment in shared growth. Building paths for others to walk alongside me isn’t a metaphor; it’s a practice. I find joy in creating opportuni­ties where everyone’s potential shines. It takes time and effort, but the rewards of connection and mutual growth make it all worthwhile. Of course, the challenge is how to make this work in a time focused on speed and convenience. It starts with balance, not the “work-life balance” cliché, but a deeper harmony between ambition and contentment, action and reflection. My world isn’t perfect, but it’s real.

THE PRACTICE OF KINDNESS

Imagining a world shaped to our own measure can feel inspiring and maybe even a little over­whelming. For me, the foundation is kindness. It is not just a value; it’s a practice, a small but steady force that shapes a life filled with mean­ing and joy. And I’ve learned that it begins with extending kindness to myself. It’s easy to be our own harshest critic, but self-compassion is the foundation for everything else.

Kindness doesn’t have to be grand. Often, it’s the simplest gestures that carry the most weight. I remember an exhausting interview where the journalist’s questions were framed with bias, forcing me to address her perspective directly. At the time, she didn’t appreciate my feedback and made her displeasure clear. Months later, I received an unexpected thank-you message. In hindsight, our conversation had given her valu­able new insights. It arrived at a moment just before a I had to step on stage for a keynote and it gave me confidence that my voice mattered. This is the qui­et power of kindness, it doesn’t demand recognition, but its ripple effects can reach far beyond the moment. Kindness isn’t about making a show; it’s about being pres­ent and paying attention. And it’s not just for oth­ers, it transforms your own perspective and of­fers deeper connection into your life.

In a time, where so much feels out of our control, I’ve learned to focus on what I can influence. Setting small, meaningful goals within my circle of influence has been a grounding practice for me. And I celebrate every step—big or small. Sometimes, it’s about starting with simple ques­tions like:

• What small act of kindness can I offer to­day to brighten someone’s day and deep­en my own sense of connection?
• Who are the people and what are the ex­periences that fill me with energy and gra­titude, and how can I honor them more fully in my life?
• Which habits or routines truly nourish me, and how can I invite them to play a more meaningful role in my daily life?

I’ve also learned that saying “no” can be just as powerful as saying “yes.” Turning down what doesn’t align with my values creates room for what does. Each small step forward builds mo­mentum and small shifts add up, proving that meaningful change is possible.

THE POWER OF A TRIBE

Here’s the deal: we don’t have to do this alone. The people we surround ourselves with shape how we see and move through the world. For me, relationships rooted in kindness and respect are like oxygen; they keep me breathing, thriv­ing, and seeing the good in chaos. Small acts as a quick check-in or a note of encouragement add up to unshakable bonds. What you put out, you get back. By focusing on kindness, I’ve built a tribe that lifts me up, challenges me, and shows me my best self. That’s the magic of kindness, it doesn’t ripple, it sends shockwaves of change.

So, what ripple will you create? Every act, no matter how small, shapes your life and others’. In a world of division, choosing kindness, attune­ment, and resonance is an act of quiet rebellion. It’s a declaration that harmony is possible, that connections can bridge divides, and that small ripples can grow into waves of change. The world doesn’t need perfection, it needs people brave enough to care, to connect, and to act with intention. Let your ripple be a force for good, a reminder that every thoughtful act can inspire, heal, and build something bigger than ourselves. Because when we ask, “How can I help?” we’re not just offering kindness to others. We’re also calling forth the best in ourselves.